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Sunday, September 20, 2015

To my dear headcovering sister who has been hurt



Dear my sister,

Ever since that incident occurred, we never cease praying for you. It was so ironic that that person chose you-, one of our most humble and tender sisters, as his target. This person should have known that the headcovering sisters are those who accept headship and male leadership, so if he had something against us, he should have written to our male leader directly instead of attacking individual sisters by name.

I was impressed to see how you've dealt with the issues with complete humbleness and Christ-like brokenness. I've seen that evilness cannot play its mean role on God-fearing person's life, as we see Joseph, who said to his brothers.

But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.  Gen 50:20

My dearest friend, I was thinking about our "ship" this morning. A ship called complementarianism. Being a complementarian in the 21st century means, I believe, we venture to live in this wolf-infested world with naked-vulnerability and brokenness. Sometimes, I receive hurtful comments from those who are opposing our way of thinking about creation order and headship.

We, however, don't rely on humanistic arguments nor feminist ideology who portrait themselves as "other" or "victims". We don't claim it even under some circumstances when we have "right" reasons to do so. With all of our weaknesses and pains, we cherish our cross and put it in the center of our hearts. This might be a fragile, risky way, but nonetheless the most assured way. And I believe that only through this narrow gate can we receive life, healing and true recovery in Christ Jesus.

We love you, my dear sister in Christ. You are our hope, joy and crown of rejoicing (1 Th 2:19).

With love and sisterly affection,


  1. Dearest Kinuko,
    I simply can not wait to meet you if not here on earth, then in heaven. The fellowship of the headcovering sisters is so sweet. I cried reading this. Thank you all so much for your prayers and uplifting encouragement in this post and the beautiful poem. The Lord brings us through trials so that we may be strengthened and made a better vessel for His use. That is my prayer that He has made me into something more fit for His service.When I read this, I also thought of the 4 friends who did everything they could to get their sick friend to Jesus for healing. They even climbed on top of the roof, cut a hole in t the ceiling and lowered the man down. I felt like the sick man on his cot. I have been brought to the feet of Jesus by you all by your prayers and supplication on my behalf. Thank you seems so inadequate, but it is definitely heart felt.
    I am also so thankful, Kinuko, for your previous post. I've learned so much from you and your willingness to be open and humble before us all. May God continue to use you for His honor and glory.
    From your sister that it's no longer hurting but healed through the prayers of caring sisters, with love :-)

  2. Dearest my sister,
    Yes, me, too. I cannot wait to see you face to face. I am so grateful that by His providence, somehow I was involved in this issue with you. It is such a blessing to be able to share joy and suffering together. I love you and cherish you. Kinuko