Sunday, March 22, 2015

Can you choose a “not-highly educated” Christian brother and respect him as your husband?

Japanese cram school source

Japan is probably one of the top nations which has put so much emphasis on a person’s educational background. The names of our high school or university decides his/her worth and social position. As a pagan child, I had been brought up in such an environment. My father is a skilled surgeon and all of our family and relatives are university degree possessors.

Students hold a morale-boosting rally at Yoyogi Seminar's Kokura cram school in Kita-Kyushu, Fukuoka Prefecture, days before they were to take the National Center Test for university applicants in January 2013. (Asahi Shimbun file photo) source

So I used to dream like this; My future husband must be highly educated and,,,he must have a honorable title so that others may think we are prestigious people.

In other words, my value systems had been stained with worldly standard to the highest degree.

After believing Jesus Christ as my Savior, however, He started to challenge this kind of value system. How? Through communal life with other Christian sisters while I was serving in the church in Tokyo.

One of them used to work in a nightclub. Well, I had never talked nor interact with a woman in a bar up until then and I felt a bit awkward in this new living environment at first. However, as the time passed by, I could be able to see the life of Christ in this sister and we eventually became the most intimate friends at communal home and in the church. He gave me grace to see the people from totally different viewpoint. “Therefore, from now on, we regard no one according to the flesh.” (II Cor 5:16)

I learned from the Lord that what really matters is whether the person in front of me has walked with Christ or not.  According to the biblical worldview, we are all “earthen vessels” (II Cor 4:7) after all. Some earthen vessels have a bit better shapes than the others but still it does not change the fact that they are earthen vessels. If we polish and boast the shape of our earthen vessels without having the very “treasure” (II Cor 4:7) in it, then what’s the use of all of our efforts?

"But God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world." (Gal 6:14)
"For it is written: I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent.” Where is the wise? Where is the scribe? Where is the disputer of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?" (I Cor 1:19-20)

Reading many accounts of our church history also revealed to me that there has been many devout, wise saints among simple workers/farmers who have truly known the Lord to its depth. Well, I am not against higher education or professionals. I am just saying that the real saints can be found in every sphere of society and that the intellectualism / academic snobbism have no place in His church. 

Thus when my husband did marriage proposal, my new value system in Christ was tested; for he did not have college education nor title in the society. He, however, has noble and untainted character. And he was full of courage and faith in Jesus Christ. He has had deep experiences with the Lord.

I asked myself, “what things shall remain until the end? –isn’t it faith, hope and love? (I Cor 13:13) Our fleshly or worldly titles or names will one day disappear with our fleshly body. The only important thing on this earth is to live with Christ, and through our dedicated lives, His Name shall be glorified. “

I am so grateful that I could make a decision to walk the pilgrim journey with this precious brother in Christ. We have had some difficulties in the world but we have tasted far better spiritual blessings and the peace in our joint-lives.

Noble character does not depend on the educational background or social titles.

The true nobility can be found in the character of Christ and in the souls of the saints who have experienced the new birth in Christ (II Cor 5:17).

Thank you for reading, my sisters!